10 Questions to Help You Connect with Your Partner

I was on social media the other day and saw a post that gave parents some alternatives to the age-old question: “how was your day at school”.  I don’t know about your children, but mine don’t generally provide much of a response to that question.

Things don’t change much as we grow older, do they?  Have you found yourself sitting across the table from your spouse and asking “how was your day” and getting that wonderfully enlightening response of “fine” back in return?

If you are in a committed relationship, chances are that you didn't enter into it hoping that one day you would sit across each other from the table at home or out at a restaurant just staring at each other in silence and unable to think of something to say to each other.  It's more likely that you had (and still have) a dream where you could feel connected to each other, and conversation flows because you enjoy each other's company so much.   

If you are just in one of those cycles where things are feeling a bit dry and you need some ideas of something that can get your conversation flowing again. 

Why not try out the questions below at your next dinner time together?  Even if you think you know everything about your partner, their answers might surprise you!

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  1. What is one thing you would like to tell your younger self?

  2. Who has been kindest to you in your life?

  3. When you imagine us 20 years down the road, what do you see?

  4. What did you want to be when you were in grade 3?

  5. If you could wake up tomorrow and have a superpower, what would it be?

  6. How do you feel about our house?  If you could change anything about its architecture, what would it be?

  7. If you have kids:  What kind of person do you think our child(ren) will become?  Any fears?  Any hopes?

  8. How do you feel about your work right now?

  9. If you could hold on to just one memory for the rest of your life, what would it be?

  10. If you could have one day by yourself to do whatever you wanted, what would you do?  What would you eat?  What would the weather be like?

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Want to spice up the conversation a little bit once the kids are in bed?  Here are two more questions to get you started!

  1. Is it important for you to have an orgasm whenever we make love?

  2. What is it like for you when you have a climax?  What are the physical sensations?  What do you feel emotionally?

If you feel like the silence you are experiencing is a sign of something a bit deeper, and a need to get some help with your relationship, please consider getting some counselling before that chasm gets any bigger.  You can contact me at 778-549-6334 or by clicking on the button below.