Trauma is a word that is used fairly liberally these days, but what does it actually mean, and what does it look like?
In an age where we have so many ways of connecting with others through social media, there is also a marked increase in people feeling alone. It has become such an issue that the UK has appointed a Minister of Loneliness. What are some ways to combat loneliness in your life, and get connected with others?
As you begin the New Year, you may be thinking of how you want 2018 to be different. Maybe you are the type of person that has already written out your goals and have ways of tracking your progress throughout the year. Or maybe you are the type of person that refuses to make New Years resolutions, but in the back of your mind have been pondering the ways that you could make some changes this year.
You’ve just arrived home after a long day at work. You have been fighting deadlines at work, difficult people, and then that commute! As you come in your front door, you look at your kitchen and think “there’s no WAY I have energy to cook tonight!”. Or if you have kids, your mind goes to the meme that’s been making its way around Facebook “why do they want dinner every single night!”. And besides, there’s activities to get to in about an hour, or another meeting for the organization you are volunteering for. Who has time for a home cooked dinner?!
Fast forward to the end of the night, and you are in bed reflecting on your day. Do you remember what you ate? Were you able to connect with friends or family today?
What if you were able to make one change to your day so that you felt connected to your family, or were just able to stop and breathe for a few minutes, and care for yourself? One of the words that comes to my mind is a pretty trendy word right now – “mindfulness”. Some of you will read that word, and stop reading this blog, because you’ve heard it too much. Bear with me!
Mindfulness is the act of slowing down enough to focus your awareness on what is happening in the present moment, and then taking time to calmly acknowledge and then accept your feelings, thoughts and bodily sensations. For a lot of people that means yoga or taking time out of their day to meditate. However, it doesn’t have to be something that is added on to your already busy schedule. What if mindfulness was about slowing down to eat dinner at the table instead of standing in the kitchen, sitting in your car, or while watching TV? What if it was slowing down and setting aside 20 minutes to be aware of what you are eating, interacting with your family members, or taking time to appreciate how good of a cook you are?
There is a lot of research that shows that having dinner as a family on a regular basis can affect behaviours at work and school, susceptibility to eating disorders, and overall self-image. One article I found stated that engaging in family meals is viewed positively by both adolescents and parents and can be a useful tool for enhancing a sense of belonging and attachment.
So how do you make this happen? How do you cook a healthy, nutritious meal to sit down to on a regular basis? There are many ways to try this, and it really comes down to trial and error to see what might work for you.
Here are some resources that I have found that helped me at various stages in my life. My hope is that at least one might resonate with you and help you to be able to experience mindfulness, attachment and stress release as you sit down to your meals next week.
Meal planning on your own
Slow cooker recipes
Happy cooking! Let me know if any of these resources helped you, or if you have one you’d like to share!
Do you experience anxiety or stress in your life? Meeting with a counsellor can help you find new ways to cope with the feelings that arise as a result of that anxiety. These tools can help with the emotional and mental side of your experience, but it is also important to address the physical side of anxiety as well. Massage can help to manage anxiety as it has been proven to address two of the most significant symptoms of anxiety: sleep issues and muscle tension and pain.
As you probably know, both the body and mind repair and regenerate during sleep. Being deprived of sleep can affect our mental and emotional state. The areas of the brain that control our emotions, decision-making capabilities and social interactions all require sleep to repair and regenerate. When we do not get enough sleep, or do not sleep deep for long enough, we can start to lose our ability to think straight and begin to feel anxiety and depression.
Massage has been shown to improve sleep, and therefore reduce the overall symptoms of anxiety. Massage can reduce stress, and improve the ability to fall asleep and the quality of sleep in those who struggle with anxiety.
Let me introduce you to Karin Poller, who runs a home-based massage business called “Me-Time Massage”. I have asked her to share some of her information in case you are looking for a masseuse in the Surrey area.
Massage therapy has been a life-long passion of mine, to help people as part of their personal healing process such as dealing with anxiety. I know from my studies, and my own practice, how good it makes people feel and how helpful massage can be. Me-time massage is all about relaxation and pampering oneself. We create a warm, comfortable and inviting environment that is enhanced with soft music and delightfully fragrant aromas. The focus is on you and your quiet enjoyment.
I came to Canada about 14 years ago, from Colombia, where I had trained to become a physiotherapist. Today I live in Surrey, BC with my husband and two young boys. As a stay-at-home Mom, with my sons full time in school, I decided I wanted to get back to my career. I opened my own small business, as a massage practitioner, to build on my background experience and because I enjoy interacting with and getting to know people.
I also decided I wanted to focus on women only. Knowing myself how stressful life can be, including as a mom and a wife, I wanted to bring the opportunity of deep relaxation, and more personal service, to the women around me, but at an affordable price compared to the bigger spas. Having the spa in my own home allows me to provide these professional services but at a lower cost. We have a private room right beside our front entrance that has been elegantly decorated.
Depending on your specific needs, to address some stiff muscles in a particular area, or just to be spoiled for a moment, I offer:
- 1-hour full body relaxation massage, ideal for pampering
- 1-hour full body hot stone massage, to try something different, or
- 30-minute trigger-point massage, our most popular service, to focus on a problem area or if you have less time.
Whichever massage you choose, it will provide deep relaxation and stress relief – something we all need more in our hectic lives. As mentioned above, we all carry this stress in our bodies – even without knowing it sometimes, as it builds up. Even more so when dealing with anxiety or depression. Massage has many other benefits as well, including:
- creating a calming and comforting effect,
- reducing muscle pain,
- helping with getting proper sleep,
- helping to clear your mind,
- supporting good physical health, and
- providing an opportunity to spoil yourself, or someone you care about.
A recent client had this to say: “Thank you again for the wonderful healing massage yesterday. It was very relaxing, helpful and blessed me so much.” We love hearing such wonderful feedback about me-time massage, knowing that we are helping women be able to forget about the stresses of life, if just for a short while, and enjoying a moment all about them.
Whether you yourself are, or someone you know is an overtired Mom, an over-stressed professional, a wife overdue for some pampering, or all three – consider a me-time massage! Visit me on Facebook or my website www.metimemassage.ca for more information, or book an appointment today by sending me an email at email@example.com.
When it comes to Christmas, a lot of people feel like the season has become commercialized. Some of us feel like there is a pressure to perform, whether it's in how many gifts we give or receive, or how many things we do throughout the season, or how much money we spend. And then there is the pressure to give! Don't be selfish at Christmas1 Give of your time. Give your money to those in need.
A lot of times we want to balance a perceived sense of greed with an attitude of giving, but how do we start??
The Action for Kindness page on Facebook has a few practical solutions! One of them is to use a Kindness Calendar like the one pictured above. This can be used as a prompt of different acts of kindness you can perform each day of December to instill a sense of giving and philanthropy.
Another suggestion that they have is from a BBC article on creating a Reverse Advent Calendar. "People put aside a donation each day of advent, so they have a collection of goods ready to drop off in time for Christmas." People in the Lower Mainland could take the goods to the Food Bank, women's shelters such as Ishtar Transition Society, or a local church that has a donation room. Be sure to contact the charity of your choice early in the month so that the items you are purchasing are acceptable within their scope of practice.
Do you have other ways that you give back to the community in December? Share them below!
I am excited to share that I now have a second office space available. This space allows me to be more accessible to people that live and work in Surrey.
I am now available on Tuesdays at #300-15240 Highway 10 as of December 4, 2017.
If you, or someone you know would like to book an appointment, please contact me at 778-549-6334 or firstname.lastname@example.org