What is counselling?
It can be overwhelming to think about opening yourself up to a complete stranger in a counselling situation. What will you talk about? Do you really need help? What if your friends think you're crazy for getting help? Is there a difference between therapy and counselling?
Counselling provides a chance for you to share your hurt, begin healing, and find hope again. Depending on what you are facing in your life, counselling can be a chance to learn new ways to cope with the stresses in your life and perhaps how you relate to difficult people you are in relationship with. Counselling can help you to manage your emotions and explore why you are feeling depressed, anxious or stressed. It can also be an opportunity to dig deep and find healing from your experience of deep wounding and abuse.
What does a counselling session look like?
Counselling sessions are typically 50 minutes long for individuals and 75 minutes for couples. The first session is a bit more structured than the ones that follow as there is some paperwork to fill out, and I will have specific questions to get to know you and the issues that you are facing. From there, we work together to picture what change you would like to see happen, and work together in session so that you can effect change and find healing inside and outside of the counselling room.
In couples counselling, everything that we do together in session is aimed at helping your relationship find healing, restoration and growth. The first session will be intake as noted above. The second session finds each of you spending half of the session alone with me. In between the second and third session, I will typically ask you to complete some assessments to help inform both you and your partner about your history, personality and the issues that your marriage is facing. The third session brings you back together and setting some direction for moving forward in further counselling sessions.